Happy Wednesday guys! If you’ve been needing a new playlist in your life, Kacey Musgraves’ Golden Hour really is golden! I’ve been listening to Slow Burn a lot lately, and it has become my summertime anthem. It actually inspired this post, so if you haven’t heard it yet, go listen to it right after you finish reading this. It might be a love song, but I still apply it to my season of singleness right now. You might be surprised {or slightly horrified} to learn I haven’t been on a date in over 3 years! *gasp* I hear from my friends all the time how I’m being anti-social, I need to get out there now, or I’ll never find anyone. Honestly, being single can feel like a scarlet letter at times. If I had a dollar for every time someone scolded me for not giving my number to the perfectly nice guy who just asked for it, I’d be rich! I rarely meet anyone who actually wants to be single, but I’m here to tell you I do. I have the complete freedom to dream and pursue my dreams to my heart’s content, and that brings me so much joy. It might be a little weird to some people, but I actually like having control over my own life.
I’ve had an urge to write about this just because I feel like the topic of being single is so taboo. The dating scene after college is a frenzy of who can snag someone before the night is done and be hitched before the year is over. I’m not exaggerating~ that is what life is like after college. Most people follow the same timeline- go to college, meet someone in college, marry someone after college, and have kids before age 30. It’s like taking a test, and we are all competing for the highest score. If you don’t pass, you go to the island of misfit toys. But, there’s something I love about being behind the curve. I get to watch people do it right and people do it wrong. I love seeing my friends get engaged, married, and become parents. I love seeing how their lives are turning out, but I don’t envy them in the slightest.
This post is for all the girls out there caught up in the comparison game that tells them if their life doesn’t look like what I just described, then something must be wrong with them. To that I say~ you must be destined for greatness!
To be honest, I like the “slow burn” feeling~ the anticipation of what’s to come. What’s the rush? Why do we feel the need to hurry our lives along? I like the mystery that comes with being single. It’s like a good book that doesn’t end. Who is she going to end up with? Once you know, the story loses its flavor. Growing up, I always said, “ I don’t want to get married until I’m at least 30!” So many people thought I was crazy, and I probably had seen 13 Going on 30 one too many times, but I mean who didn’t want to be Jennifer Garner in that movie?! Truly, I’m so happy that was a dream of mine because now I’m able to enjoy my 20s instead of trying desperately to check something off my list. I’m actually looking forward to my thirty, flirty, and thriving stage! Don’t get me wrong~ if you are still following along with my blog a few years from now, I’ll have a handsome & successful man on my arm. Then again, maybe I won’t. The point is, it doesn’t matter! For now, I’m happy to take a deep breath and figure out what I want out of life.
Fun Fact: while out shooting this look, a couple of little fawns decided to photobomb the shot! If you look closely, you can see them behind me. They were so adorable and just kept on with their grass eating like we weren’t even there {which I felt fit right into this post today}!
Anyways, to all my fellow single girls out there~ enjoy life right now! We all have different timelines, so don’t judge yourself on someone else’s. Embrace life in all its stages, and be thankful for this time you have with yourself. Do it your way, and it will be alright!
xx,
Samantha
